The Could-I-Really Kit
For the version of you that keeps asking the question and then hanging up on yourself. No commitments in here. Just the honest shape of the thing, from someone who asked the same question out loud.
Let's clear the throat of this thing
Wanting a different life doesn't mean you're ungrateful for this one. It means you're paying attention.
I spent years succeeding at a definition of success I never actually chose. It took my life burning down, literally, to make me audit it. Here's the one thing I'd hand you from the other side:
The biggest hardships can turn into the biggest turning points, into the best things that ever happen to you. But you have to choose it. You have to choose the reframe. You have to choose your narrative.
You don't need a catastrophe to start choosing. You're allowed to start from a Tuesday.
What this actually is
Dreams die from vagueness more than from difficulty. So here's the real shape of a move like ours. Not the numbers (those live in the Mapmaker kit when you're ready). The shape:
Before you tell a single soul
Answer these for yourself before you open the family group chat. Private, no wrong answers.
The door stays open
You don't have to decide anything today. You just have to stop pretending you're not thinking about it.
One step, this month, private:
Nine hard things about this move, said kindly here so none of them gets to ambush you somewhere less kind.
ANYONE WEIGHING ITThe Two BillsEveryone compares tax rates. This prices the other bill, the American one you pay because taxes did not cover the thing.